First cousins marriages..?

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Am against first cousins marriage… And I have reasons for it… Yes… Not a reason but reasons!

Being a thalassemia I know how parents feel helpless when they see getting you pricked, going through several problems, getting several treatments, and still they can’t do anything except for crying and praying for us…. I know how it feels when mom looks at me and inside I start feeling bad for her… I know how it feels when parents blame themselves for giving birth to such kids…

Scientifically it is said that one shouldn’t marry his/her cousin… to be safe from any kind of disease… let’s say thalassemia? Abnormal kids?

I have seen many cases that got married with their cousin and have abnormal kids… or kid have some disability…

It was said that kids get thalassemia if their parents are first cousins… true… I tell you 50% it is true and 50% it is not… I have seen cases where there was no relation between man and woman then also their kid was thalassemic… now what?

Why still people couldn’t correct their mistakes? Why people still marry their son/daughter in their own family or in community? Why people are still so biased?

People need to grow up… to get a life… to correct their mistakes…to focus on different things rather than sitting and talking rubbish about others and self-praising themselves… they seriously need a break now!!!

I have met and I know many people who think if they marry their son/daughter out of family/community then family/community would do their boycott…, when their thinking/mentality going to change?? Never?

Disease thing was one reason… second reason I know and a friend of mine is an example of it…, my friend’s sister got married in family and now those so called relatives are pressurizing my friend’s family to give my friend for their another son and to take their daughter for my friend’s bro… Whoa!!! Cool plan… did you like it? Of course you won’t ever like it… I didn’t like it too and I said to my friend after listening ‘have they bought you all? Go ahead and do something!!’, but then what my friend said made me blank, here is what she said ‘Ayesha, we are helpless… you know its baji’s in-laws… if we do anything she is the one going to suffer… so we can’t do anything except listening to them’

Apart from my friend’s example there are several examples around us who faces such problems… sometimes family pressurize other relatives… sometimes they keep their demands high… sometimes they create mess that even relations get messed up… sometimes they make their ego problem, sometimes they argue on small small things…

This is what we call relative and their relation? He he… Yes!

My comment box is open for your comments/thinking/opinions/compliments/examples/experience go ahead and speak 🙂

But still I wont change my thinking… am still against first cousins marriage : )!!

Take Cares, Allah Hafiz
-ayesha

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جو اس کو مل نہیں سکتا۔۔
جو اس کو مل نہیں سکتا۔۔
کیوں اس کی چاہت ہے؟
مجھ کو دل سے یہی شکایت ہے۔۔
ٹوکڑوں ٹوکڑوں میں مجھ سے روز ملنے والے سن۔۔۔
جب مکمل نہیں ملنا تو کوئی خواب نا بن۔۔
تنہا تنہا ہوں میں، مجھے تیری ضرورت ہے۔۔
مجھ کو دل سے یہی شکایت ہے۔۔
یہ تیری زلفیں تیری آنکھیں، اف یہ تیرا پیراہن۔۔
اور خوشبو سے مہکتا ہوا یہ گورا سا بدن۔۔
جانتا ہوں میں یہ کہ۔۔ کسی غیر کی امانت ہے۔۔
مجھ کو دل سے یہی شکایت ہے۔۔
بن تیرے مجھ کو زندگی سے۔۔خوف لگتا ہے۔۔
ۡقسطوں قسطوں میں مر رہا ہوں۔ؕ۔ روز لگتا ہے۔۔
کس لئے مجھ کو اپنی زندگی سے نفرت ہے؂؟۔۔
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