Okay after my last post… many friends asked me about *ahem ahem*, they were like you are hiding something and stuff, and few friends asked about Thalassemia Major and their marriages…, so I thought to write a post about it… here it is:
About Ahem Ahem: there is no one, yeah… am single but just like any other mother my mother is concerned about my marriage and blah blah… so one thing cleared… now moving to Thalassemia Major and their marriages
There was a time when it was said a Thalassemic can’t live till 18 years old, but it has been proved wrong : ) and am glad me and Salman are the examples of this thing, me being 20 years old and Salman being 22 years old MashaAllah.
Many friends ask me about Thalassemia and life with Thalassemia, and I keep telling them Thalassemic life is like any other human being’s life, nothing different… they live, they eat, they drink, they walk, they sleep, they are human being! Just they have to be careful about their treatment, that’s it….
If you maintain your health you can live up to 40 / 50 years…
One day a friend asked me, are you not scared of death? You are ill you must be scared na?, I didn’t want to be harsh but I said ‘do you know when you going to die? Do you know the time and day your life gonna end?’ when a normal doesn’t know about his/her life then what is the difference between us and them? Nothing : ) yeaah nothing! Even an illiterate would understand this…
Marriage is like bit of issue whether its for a Thalassemic or a normal person, but marriage for Thalassemic is possible, they can marry any normal person (blood test is required before marrying), live a normal life and even can have babies! Whats the difference remained now? Once again nothing!
Thalassemic just have to take proper care, proper treatment and awareness about the disease, then they can easily beat any other normal person : )
Am quoting some related information about Thalassemia Marriage and Children from Thalassemia.Com.Pk
Do thalassemics necessarily have thalassemic children?
No. Usually their children will be healthy, but it does depend on who they marry.
Figure 8 shows that if a thalassemic marries a “normal”, all the children will be healthy carriers. They must inherit a thalassemia gene from their thalassemia parent, and they must inherit a normal one from the normal parent, so none of them can possibly have thalassemia major.
Figure 9 shows that if a thalassemic marries a thalassemic carrier, in each pregnancy there is a 50 % chance that the child will be thalassemic, and a 50 % chance that it will be a healthy carrier. This is quite a common situation, since thalassemia carriers sometimes have a special understanding for people with thalassemia major. Then they have to choose whether to use parental diagnosis or not.
Figure 10 shows that is one thalassemic marries another, all their children will be thalassemics. This situation arises sometimes too, because thalassemics have so much in common, they often feel particularly close to each other. When it does happen, they usually decide not to have any children. but in the future, if it becomes possible to correct thalassemia by genetic engineering, it could become possible even for such couples to have their own, healthy children.
It depend on us how we take things, how we look at things, the famous line: glass is half empty or half full : )? All we have to become positive and optimistic then we can achieve anything… that’s what I have learnt so far…, your views change positive into negative, negative into positive, its you who can make a difference in you and in the world… so when you starting to make a difference in yourself?
Your question/query is welcome… I would love to answer any question you want to ask about Thalassemia or about my life : )
Who is sending proposal after reading all the information ;)? Lol kidding!
Take cares, Allah Hafiz